Group treatment, specific treatment. Spiritual retreats. Reading self-help publications. Journaling. Meditating. Working away. Getting himself together. Maybe Not dating. If he could be, he could be a ill guy. Also you have now ended up with a boyfriend who has yet to deal with anything if you manage to keep the relationship going for a long period of time, even post their divorce being final. The man you’re seeing is just a fucked up mess within the mind. Congrats.
Yourself post-split and are ready to start dating, you need to think very clearly about your motives if you find. It’s interesting and exciting to consider that is on the market.